Growing through Suffering

“Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it.”

This quote is by Helen Keller, a woman who, although becoming both deaf and blind when she was a young child, learned to speak, read, and write and became a well-known author, speaker, and philanthropist.

Even though I know that there are always going to be people who are suffering in our world, I still sometimes wonder why it needs to be.  I realize my questioning is naïve.  But I think especially of people, including children, who live in places where there are wars, crime, natural disasters, or insufficient food.  So often they are innocent and happen to have been born in and be living in those places when such things happen.

And even though I wonder why, I do know that one of the teachings of Christianity and of most other religious traditions is that suffering is part of what each of us will experience at various times in our lives.  And I also believe it is true that persevering through hardships and personal challenges helps us to become more whole and genuine people and to grow in the qualities of courage and having empathy for others.  Very likely most of us have seen this happen for people we know and perhaps for ourselves, and there have been many examples of this throughout history.  Some of the women and men we most admire from the past have not had easy lives.

So I see the truth of Helen Keller’s words that the world is full of suffering.  And I think it’s also essential to remember her words that much suffering is overcome.  For that gives us hope.

I know people who have experienced heart-wrenching loss and with time found emotional healing; who have had cancer, endured difficult side effects from the treatment, and the cancer went into remission; whose spouse wanted a divorce and who had hoped to reconcile but the spouse didn’t, and who, after grieving the loss, realized their life was better to no longer be with that person.  These are just a few of the many examples of difficult life experiences where people’s suffering was overcome.

And much suffering is overcome with the help of others:  friends, family members, mental health professionals, natural healers, treatment program personnel, and so on.  Even though it is true that suffering is a part of life, we must remember that making genuine efforts to assist those who are suffering is also something we are called to do.

So I try to remember that times of suffering and also times of overcoming suffering are a part of each of our life journeys.  And I also remind myself that our Creator is with us as we go through what we need to go through.  And it is also our Creator who makes it possible for us to persevere and to grow from those times of suffering.

Person to Person

“Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person.”

This quote is by Mother Teresa.  Since I began writing my blog several years ago, I have chosen other quotes by her a number of times as a basis for my posts.  There’s a kind of “quiet strength” in the way she approached life that is reflected in her words, a quiet strength that is meaningful to me.

Mother Teresa often spoke and wrote about the fact that each person’s efforts have value. That is the case once again in her words “do it alone, person to person.”  Every time we treat another person with dignity, kindness, and empathy, we make that person’s life better as an individual, and in addition we increase that which is positive in our world.  And by treating each other in this way, we are also doing one of the things we were created to do.

Although each act of caring matters in itself, there is also the cumulative effect of such person-to-person interactions.  Mother Teresa refers to this in some of her other quotes too.  An example is when she says “the ocean would be less because of that missing drop” where she uses the metaphor of each act of kindness as being a drop of water.  Just as every drop of water makes up the huge ocean, every positive word and action add to that which has value in our world.

Once again, I’m reminded of how essential it is to grow in consciousness so that we become more and more able to follow inner direction. For inner direction guides us in our day-to-day words and actions.  Through its guidance, we are led to those things we were created to do.

So heed Mother Teresa’s words:  Don’t wait for others; do it alone, person to person.