Learning from Life Experiences 

“God allows us to experience the low points of life in order to teach us lessons that we could learn in no other way.”

This quote by British scholar and author C.S. Lewis is yet another way to express the presence of God in our lives and also the truth that life naturally includes times of difficulty.  And that it’s essential to remember that those times of difficulty have the purpose of teaching us vital lessons.

Being in my older years, I have had many experiences.  They include being with and assisting my elderly parents in their last years and witnessing their abilities diminish, feeling the loss of a sibling who chose to estrange herself from me, having feelings of deep disappointment when things did not work out as I’d hoped they would, and missing loved ones who passed away.  As is the case with most people, I’ve also had many pleasant experiences, times when things worked out as I hoped they would, and loving relationships.  I’ve also been blessed with having a sense of purpose and meaning in my life, thanks in large part to learning about the concepts of Jungian psychology.

Even though I definitely agree with Lewis’ words, when life presents me with a challenge I still need to remind myself that difficult experiences have a purpose.  And that our Creator has given all of us the abilities that help us to go through whatever the experience is and to learn from it.  To broaden that idea a bit more, our dealing with life’s low points helps us to grow in consciousness, to have empathy and compassion for others when they are dealing with challenges, and to make positive changes.

An example from my life is when I was a victim of a carjacking and purse stealing incident a few years ago.  It was unexpected because it happened in a residential neighborhood in the early afternoon on a Sunday as I was getting out of my car to visit friends.  I say unexpected because it seemed to me that such a crime was more likely to happen when it was dark and in an area where crime was more common.  Even though it was frightening, caused a lot of inconvenience, and caused me to feel a sense of loss, with the help of my adult daughter, I made the calls to the police, my insurance company, the credit card company, etc., and I stayed with her a couple of days.  Thankfully, I was not injured and the car was found two days later after it had been abandoned.  My purse and its contents were never recovered.

Some things I learned from the incident are that I can go through an unexpected and frightening experience and be OK.  I also learned (once again) that my daughter and I have a special relationship for which I’m very thankful, and I’ve found that the experience has helped me to have more empathy for other people who are victims of crime and other hurtful situations.

I believe I also grew in faith because it was as if our Creator helped me after it happened—worked through my daughter to give me the assistance she did and helped me to feel minimal trauma.  In fact, just a few weeks earlier I’d completed reading an excellent book about trauma and what I had read helped me.

We all should be thankful for the many positive aspects of our lives.  And when difficult or challenging times arrive, to remind ourselves of Lewis’ words.  They will help us take the steps we need to take.

Books as Friends, Counselors, Teachers

“Books are the quietest and most constant of friends, they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors, and the most patient of teachers.”

This quote is by Charles W. Eliot. He was an American academic who lived from 1834 to 1926, and he was the President of Harvard University for 40 years.

Mr. Eliot’s words caught my attention because of the way he compared books to living beings—friends, counselors, and teachers.  And, although I hadn’t previously thought of books in that way, his descriptions of them are certainly fitting.

Reading a book can be a type of companion or friend in that the words of the authors are present with us during the time we are reading.  And for those books that especially resonate with us, aspects of that which we read remain with us and come to mind from time to time as well.

Counselors, whether mental health counselors, legal counselors, financial counselors, or other types of counselors, are sought out because of their education, expertise, and experience in their fields.  When we meet with counselors, we gain from their wisdom and knowledge.  Similarly, when we read well-written books, we gain wisdom and knowledge.  There are nonfiction books about thousands of topics as well as fiction books with many different themes and focuses.  Through reading, we learn about various aspects of life—and there’s always more that we can learn.

Books teach us about myriad topics.  No matter what our interests are, there are books about them.  Just as we learned a great deal as students during our childhood and our young adult years, we can be lifetime learners by reading.  And in the same way that many teachers had a positive effect on our lives, the writing of many authors has that potential as well.

It’s concerning that after completing high school or college, many people don’t read books, or read very little.  They read what was required for the courses they took, but upon graduation they no longer make time for personal reading.  I realize that many people are busy with raising families, working, sometimes working more than one job, and so on.  I did less personal reading when I was raising my daughter and working full-time.  I’m speaking more about people who do have free time but don’t use any of it to read.  It’s concerning because reading helps to broaden our knowledge about many aspects of life, and it can help us to be more empathic toward others, to have creative ideas, to make positive changes, and to enrich our lives.

So, for the reasons Eliot says, I encourage you to add reading books to what you do if you are not already doing so.  Even a few minutes a day will make a difference.  And for parents, I encourage you to read to and with your children—both for their sake and because many children’s books speak to adults as well.

Wisdom and Humility

“It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.”

This quote by Mahatma Gandhi is a reminder to all of us of the importance of humility.  For no matter how much knowledge we have, how much education we’ve had, and how many life experiences we’ve had, no human being is exempt from being wrong at times.  One aspect of humility is recognizing the fact that being wrong and making mistakes from time to time help us to learn, and by means of that learning, to gain in wisdom.

Gandhi’s words also cause me to think about being thankful for the wisdom the Creator has given us.  Wisdom helps us to live our lives more fully and with integrity, to keep things in perspective, and to help others.

It’s concerning that there are leaders of countries and members of governing bodies who believe that they are always right, and especially concerning when policies they enact cause harm to people.  They won’t consider investigating alternatives because they don’t think other people’s ideas and suggestions matter.  This certainly is not wisdom; it’s egocentricity.  This wrong approach also applies to anyone whose decisions adversely affect others, including employers, school administrators, and other men and women who hold leadership roles.

Accepting and then keeping in mind Gandhi’s words that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err will help us to be humble and to be open to considering the ideas of others.  And, most importantly, we should all endeavor to listen to our inner wisdom, to try to discern its guidance for us as we travel our earthly journeys.

Music Is an Outburst of the Soul

“Music is an outburst of the soul.”

This quote is by Frederick Delius, an English composer who lived from 1862 to 1934.

Recently I had the special experience of going to a performance by the National Lutheran Choir. Some of the pieces sung by the 80-plus singers were accompanied by a pianist and some by an organist.  There was a variety of songs, some traditional and some created by contemporary composers.  The talent and preparation by the singers and accompanists, the choices of music by the artistic director, and her directing ability all came together to create “an outburst of the soul.”

Each of us has preferences for the types of music that appeal to us.  And there is much to choose from.  Jazz, rock, country, and classical, to name a few.  I’m impressed by the many talented and skilled musicians and vocalists who bring music to life.  I’m also impressed by the many creative composers and song writers.  We’re fortunate when we are able to attend concerts in person, and we’re also fortunate that we live in a time when high quality recorded music is readily available from many sources.

Listening to music is not only pleasant in general, it can also help us when we’re feeling down or anxious.  Many people listen to music to help them cope with difficult emotions, for music has a healing quality.  Singing along with the music we’re listening to can also lift our spirits. On my drive home from the concert, I found myself feeling light-hearted and grateful.

I’m thankful for the many gifts of the universe, including the gift of music.

Doing the Best We Can

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“I do the very best I know how – the very best I can; and I mean to keep on doing so until the end.”

These words are by Abraham Lincoln, the sixteenth President of the United States, who lived from 1809 to 1865.  He was President during the Civil War and is remembered as a man of integrity who took the first steps toward ending slavery in the United States.

Although Lincoln’s words are referring to himself and his approach to life, they express that which all of us should do.  Trying to do our best is part of living life fully, and each of us has abilities that can help us in our endeavors.

It can be disheartening to make mistakes and to deal with obstacles that get in the way of that which we’re trying to do.  It can also take a lot of effort and perseverance to keep on trying to do the best we can.  And yet it is so important to not give up, both for ourselves individually and for whoever will be affected by what we do.

Whether we are trying to do our best in our day-to-day endeavors related to family, friends, our work, staying healthy, and in other ways, or whether we’re trying our best by putting effort and time into a specific project or goal, we need to keep on doing the best we know how, as Lincoln says.