Books Take Us to Another World

“Books and doors are the same thing.  You open them, and you go through into another world.”

This quote is by Jeanette Winterson, an English author and professor.

Reading is one of my favorite things to do during my free time.  When Ms. Winterson says by opening a book we go into another world, I’m reminded of the “other worlds” I’ve entered by reading.  I’ve entered other eras, other countries, and other places in the country where I live.  I’ve entered into people’s life circumstances that are different from mine, other people’s thoughts, emotions, relationships, challenges, adventures, sorrows, and joys.  Quality fiction and nonfiction expand our experience, add to our knowledge about our world, and enrich our lives.

As is the case for many people, I live a busy life, and I’d like to have more time to read than I do.  One way I’ve added to what I’ve read is by listening to audiobooks when I’m doing tasks at home or while driving.  Many books of various genres are available in audio form, including at libraries for no cost.

I’m impressed that there are so many creative and talented authors, and I’m appreciative of the discipline and hard work that’s involved in writing.  My two-year-old grandson has many picture books.  As I look at them with him, I’m also impressed by the creativity and talent of illustrators.

With the many options we have to choose from for how we spend leisure time, including electronic games, the internet, and streaming, reading is often not a priority.  Although it’s fine to spend some time doing those activities, it’s important to give ourselves the gift of reading and all that we gain from it.  And for parents, teachers, caregivers, and others to give the gift of reading to the children in their lives, which will in turn help children to become life-long readers.

I wish you joy each time you open another door into another world through reading.

Our Inner Urge Toward Growth

“The ego must be able to listen attentively and to give itself, without any further design or purpose, to that inner urge toward growth.”

This quote is by Marie-Louise von Franz, who was a Jungian analyst and the author of several books about analytical psychology, and who also collaborated with Carl Jung for many years.

The ego is the conscious awareness of one’s personal identity.  It takes in information from the environment and chooses the direction to take based on that information.  Dr. von Franz’s quote further describes the true purpose of the ego: to choose the direction to take based on listening attentively to the guidance of the Self (to use the Jungian term) or of the inner voice (to use the spiritual term).  For the Self and the inner voice have the same source.

This true purpose of the ego is the opposite of egocentricity.  People who are egocentric think only of themselves without regard for the feelings and desires of others.  Approaching life in that way is never directed by inner guidance, but instead shows a total lack of awareness that such guidance exists.  The true purpose of the ego is also the opposite of “societal shoulds,” where we make decisions based on what is considered to be popular, such as what is portrayed by much of the media and many websites.  Similarly, when we make choices based on the expectations of people we know who we fear will no longer accept us if we make changes that they don’t agree with, our egos are not giving of themselves to the inner urge toward guidance.

I believe von Franz’s words “without any further design or purpose” emphasize the importance of not letting our egocentric tendencies be in control.  Her words also remind us that it requires commitment, effort, and self-giving to do the right thing by setting aside our self-interest.

Ways that the ego can listen attentively and give itself, to use von Franz’s words, include trying to discern possible meanings of synchronicities, paying attention to intuitive promptings, writing down the dreams we remember and contemplating their images and actions and what the dreams might be attempting to bring to consciousness, noticing when projection might be happening and what we can learn about ourselves from it, and trying to discern possible meanings of unexpected happenings.  For all of these phenomena are manifestations of the inner urge toward growth.

We all have the gift of an inner urge toward growth.  By making the effort to listen attentively and to recognize when our egocentricity is blocking our ability to hear its guidance, we will receive the direction which enables us to continue on the spiritual path we were created to follow.

Doing Better

“Do the best you can until you know better.  Then when you know better, do better.”

This quote is by poet, singer, and civil rights activist Maya Angelou.  When I first read it, I thought of two things:  the importance of trying to do the best we can in everything we do and the fact that we are continually adding to what we know, both when we purposely add to our knowledge such as by reading and also that we learn as we go about each day taking in information through what we see, hear, come into contact with, and so on.

We all have qualities, abilities, and talents.  What those are and the extent to which they are developed varies from person to person.  But whatever they are, they can help us to try to do our best.  Qualities such as patience, empathy, and generosity, including being generous with our time, help us to assist and to have positive interactions with others.  Making an effort to do well at our jobs and when doing other essential activities, rather than being lazy and doing the minimum necessary, is another way we endeavor to do our best.  Putting time and effort into growing in consciousness is an especially valuable way to try to do our best.

Angelou’s words “until you know better” cause me to think about how it is that we come to “know better.”  Much of what we knew during our childhood years was that which we were taught by our parents and other adults, things like what was right and what was wrong, what we should or should not do, and so on.  At least as influential, and perhaps more so, was what we learned by observing the behavior modeled by our parents and other adults and also by children who were older than we were.

In early adulthood, the basis of much of what we know is what we learned as children.  But ideally when we are adults that which we know broadens through the influence of other people, through reading, from our jobs, and from our many life experiences, including unexpected happenings.  Sometimes we “know better” only after we realize we made a mistake.  We learn from it and move on.  Throughout our lives the way we approached various situations and tasks was based on what made sense to us at that time—the time before we “knew better.”  After having had more experiences, some of those earlier approaches no longer applied.  And this continues throughout the rest of our lives.

Finally, as Angelou says, we are able to “do better” than we did before because of the knowledge we have gained during our life journey.  We grow toward our potential and live more purposeful lives by expanding upon what we know, being open to new ideas and approaches, and making changes in positive ways.  And as we become more conscious, we are more able to discern the guidance of our inner voice and to act on that guidance—thus, to “do better.”  Through growing in consciousness we become more genuine and individuated persons who help to make our world a better place.

Nature Around Us

“Time spent amongst trees is never wasted time.”

This quote is by Katrina Mayer, who is a speaker, workshop leader, and author.

We human beings are connected to nature.  This truth has been expressed in various ways by many people, and I’m drawn to Katrina Mayer’s way of expressing it in her quote.

For those of us who live in urban areas, it’s wonderful when we are able to leave the city or suburbs and spend time in the countryside; to get away from the bustle of the city and the sound of traffic and to take in the beauty of nature and the fresh air.

But for those of us who are not able to do that very often, and also for those who are, we are still close to nature every day.  Every tree and bush, the sky above, the squirrels and rabbits and birds we see in the city are also aspects of nature that enrich our lives.  Thankfully, many urban areas have parks and nature trails, and I’m impressed by the urban planners who prioritize having trees and other vegetation along highways and streets.  There are trees along the sidewalk where I walk to and from the bus stop that add beauty to my walk.

I was reminded recently of our connection to nature by my little grandson who is a toddler.  When he and I went to a nearby park, he went from tree to tree—sometimes just feeling the texture of the bark and other times putting his arms around the trunk as if he was hugging it.  When we were with his parents later, I asked if they had seen him do that other times and they said yes.  They said that it was something he had started doing on his own, not something he had seen others do and was copying.  It was special for me to see—and very cute!

Many of us have busy lives with many commitments.  But try to notice and to enjoy the nature around you.  As Mayer says, try to spend some time among trees.  It will refresh your soul.

Growing in Awareness

“If we judge others, it is because we are judging something in ourselves of which we are unaware.”

This quote is by John A. Sanford who was a Jungian analyst, an Episcopal priest, a speaker, and the author of several books.  Reading his books has been of great help to me, and I highly recommend them to you.  Some of his books are Healing and Wholeness, Dreams: God’s Forgotten Language, The Kingdom Within: The Inner Meaning of Jesus’ Sayings, and Dreams and Healing.

Judging others is a tendency that most if not all people have.  We all have values and worldviews, and we often expect others to have values and worldviews similar to ours.  And when they don’t, we can fall into the trap of assuming there is something wrong with them.

When Sanford says “we are judging something in ourselves,” I’m reminded of psychological projection.  Projection occurs when we attribute to another person or group qualities and/or characteristics that might be a reflection of something about ourselves of which we are not conscious.

Because projection happens unconsciously, we do not control whether or when it occurs.  But we can try to notice when it has happened and then do some self-questioning:  Is it possible that what I don’t like about a certain person or group is an aspect of myself I hadn’t realized was there?  For example, if we notice ourselves being judgmental about someone we consider to be self-centered, upon reflection we might remember times when we too have been self-centered.  It’s far easier to notice what we consider to be faults of others than it is to see them in ourselves.

Having a strong emotional reaction to or about another person or group is often a signal that projection has occurred.  That emotional reaction can serve as a reminder to put some thought into what is very likely projection and then to learn from what we’ve discovered about ourselves.  The purpose of learning about ourselves isn’t to be down on ourselves but rather to assist us to change in positive ways by being watchful of negative tendencies we’ve discovered we have.

Sanford’s words “of which we are unaware” point to the importance of making efforts to grow in awareness.  Lack of awareness frequently causes harm to others.  Projection is the basis for prejudices against people with whom we disagree and against people who are different from us by race, ethnicity, sexual identity, age, faith tradition, etc.  Prejudice and the judging of others it leads to are often the basis for unjust laws and even are the cause of wars in addition to the hurt they causes to individuals in day-to-day interactions.

By making an effort to grow in awareness, we are less likely to judge others.  And we add to our self-knowledge which is the first step to making positive changes that decrease the chance that we might unconsciously cause harm to others.

Letters from God 

“Dreams are like letters from God.  Isn’t it time you answered your mail?”

This quote is by Marie-Louise von Franz who was a Jungian analyst and the author of several books about analytical psychology.  She also collaborated with Carl Jung for many years.

Until I was in my mid-30s I didn’t think much about dreams.  If I remembered a dream in which something unusual happened or that in some other way caught my attention, l would wonder briefly why a dream like that might occur, but that would be the extent of my interest.  It wasn’t until I began therapy with a Jungian psychotherapist who I had sought out because I was struggling with some difficulties going on in my life that I learned that dreams have meaning.  In addition to my therapist and me talking about my dreams during our sessions, I started reading books about Jungian dream theory.  Most of the books I read were written by Jungian analysts who had years of experience meeting with clients and therefore who had heard thousands of dreams.  Hearing those dreams and discussing them with their clients enabled them to confirm Carl Jung’s writings about dreams and to expand upon his findings.

I have paid attention to my dreams ever since, including recording them in my journal.  Writing down one’s dreams is an important part of the process.  I also make note of any associations I have to people and places that appear in my dreams and of any other thoughts I have about each dream.  Jungian dream theory propounds that when people with whom we are familiar appear in our dreams, the great majority of the time the dreams are not about those people.  Instead, the people represent aspects of ourselves.  For example, a politician appeared in one of my dreams who has said and done things that make it clear he is egotistical, dishonest, and lacking in empathy and integrity.  Having learned that people who appear in dreams often symbolize aspects of the dreamer, I was at first disheartened that he was in my dream because of my negative associations to him.  But I also realized that my dream was reminding me that I too have a degree of those traits and to be watchful of them.  The dream was also a reminder that we all have dark aspects even though we don’t necessarily like to be reminded of them.

I’ve also had dreams in which people appeared who symbolize positive qualities, including creativity, generosity, empathy, courage, and respect for others.  When a person appears in my dream to whom I have positive associations, I’m reassured that I too have some degree of the qualities symbolized by that person.

So I appreciate von Franz’s creative description of dreams as being letters from God.  Just as it is important to read letters we receive, it is important to write down our dreams, contemplate them, and be thankful for them.  And I also appreciate her reminder to us to answer our mail.  In other words, to do our best to discern the possible messages and guidance of our dreams and then to integrate those messages and guidance into our daily living.

Protecting the Environment

“Environment is no one’s property to destroy; it’s everyone’s responsibility to protect.”

This quote is by Mohith Agadi who is an author and entrepreneur who lives in India.

It can be disheartening when we find ourselves questioning whether the efforts of one person can make a difference when dealing with the large, global problem of climate change.  And yet those efforts do matter.  What would help the most is if many more people would make the effort for, as Agadi says, protecting the environment is everyone’s responsibility.

One of my motivations for recycling, reusing, donating items to programs that make them available to others, driving only when necessary, and in other ways decreasing my carbon footprint is that I care deeply about the quality of life of the children of our world, both in the present and when they are adults, and for all who will be born after them.  I also care about the people who live in poor countries who are experiencing climate disasters caused by global warming even though the people in those countries contribute far less to what causes global warming than we in the United States and other wealthy countries do.  In fact, I recently read that the average carbon footprint of people who live in the United States is four times that of people in the majority of other countries.  We share this earth with almost eight billion people.  The earth is also no one’s property to destroy.

I’m thankful that there are many programs whose purpose is to decrease the factors that contribute to climate change.  We are able to recycle glass and plastic containers, paper, and metal so that new products can be made from those materials.  Composted food and yard waste is turned into organic material that enriches the soil.  There are drop-off facilities that take batteries, electronics, paint, and many other products that are then disposed of responsibly and kept out of landfills.  There are numerous websites with information about the many ways each of us can do our part to help to protect the environment.

The majority of religious and spiritual traditions emphasize helping other people rather than thinking only of our own needs and wants.  Doing our part takes some time and effort.  But that is true of everything that matters.  I think of caring about the environment and doing my part as not only caring about improving air and water quality for myself and my loved ones, but also as yet another way to help other people, both those of us presently sharing this earth and also those of future generations.

Begin with the Heart

“Where do we begin?  Begin with the heart.”

This quote is by Julian of Norwich, who was an English anchoress who lived in the 1300s.  An anchoress is a woman who led a prayerful, ascetic life and who withdrew from secular society to do so.  The word anchorite refers to a man who chose that way of life.  Julian is best known for her writings Revelations of Divine Love.

When I contemplate Julian’s words “begin with the heart,” I think of feelings that emanate instinctively from within.  I think of agape love, which is a love that desires the welfare of others and has no expectation of return.  And I think of the more personal love we have for people we know and are emotionally close to.  Her words also bring to mind spontaneous reactions as compared to planned responses. When we begin with the heart, we come from a place of genuine caring as a basis for decisions we make and for the way we respond to various life situations.

Most of our day-to-day activities involve using our thinking functions—figuring things out, planning, analyzing, using logic.  These abilities are essential for doing many things, from something as simple as preparing a grocery list to working on complex undertakings such as those that are required by certain professions.  Because thinking functions are necessary for many daily tasks and for many occupations, and because they are emphasized by western cultures, there is often a tendency to minimize the importance of our feelings and intuition.  And yet our feelings and intuitive promptings are also ways to experience aspects of life and are essential in helping us discern choices we make and responses to life happenings.

When we listen to our heart, we are more in touch with the guidance of our inner voice, and therefore more on our spiritual path.  That is what matters most.

The Source Within

“There is a source within us that always works to bring things into the light.”

This quote is by John A. Sanford who was a Jungian analyst, an Episcopal priest, a speaker, and the author of several books.

One of the reasons I have been drawn to Jungian psychology is the way that many of its concepts correspond to religious teachings and spirituality.  And one of the reasons I think so highly of Dr. Sanford is his ability to clearly write about that interrelationship.

Sanford’s referring to a source within us is an example of that interrelationship.  The source within is the guidance we receive from our Creator which I often refer to as our inner voice.  That source is also the Self, a Jungian concept which can be defined as the larger reality that includes both the ego and the unconscious.  The Self provides energy, strength, and direction to the ego.  The Creator provides our life force which includes energy, strength, and direction.

Another key Jungian concept in addition to that of the Self is individuation.  Individuation is the inner process where we grow in consciousness and become more whole.  We grow in consciousness by integrating aspects of the unconscious that we learn from the symbols and stories of our dreams, from intuition, from synchronicities, and from unexpected occurrences.  And our dreams and intuition, synchronicities, and unexpected occurrences are all given to us by our Creator for the purpose of helping us to learn about ourselves.  Learning about ourselves enables us to change in positive ways that help us to live vital and purposeful lives.  As we become more individuated, we become more the persons we were created to be.  And we were created by our Creator.

Sanford’s words “bring things into the light” speaks to enlightenment.  When we are enlightened, we have a clearer understanding and awareness.  Just as in outer reality when lights make it possible for us to see whatever we’re looking at more clearly, in inner reality something brought into the light helps us to understand the guidance we’re being given.

I’m reminded of people I’ve known or read about who, through their actions and words, are people who are wise, courageous, empathic, and have other qualities that make it possible to live fulfilling lives.  They are not perfect, for no human being is.  But they clearly are on their spiritual path and are people who are individuating.  They are in touch with that source within us that brings things into the light.  This is possible for every one of us, and I encourage those who read this post to learn more about Jungian psychology so that they too will live more fulfilling lives.

Everything in Life Has Purpose

“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose.  There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.”

This quote is by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, who was a psychiatrist, instructor, and author.  She is known for her studies and writings about near-death experiences, stages of grief, and her pioneering work to improve the lives of people who were terminally ill.  This work included her insights about hospice and palliative care and about treating people who were dying with dignity.  She wrote several books, the best known being On Death and Dying.

Dr. Kübler-Ross’ words “all events are blessings given to us to learn from” are a reminder that every day there are opportunities to add to our knowledge, including our self-knowledge, opportunities for which we need to be grateful.  As we go about each day, we learn from, among other things, our interactions with others and from unexpected happenings.  Sometimes those interactions and those happenings are enjoyable and therefore we welcome them.  At other times they can be difficult.  It takes an effort to feel grateful when we must deal with challenges and hardships, for our egos want to be “in control” and to avoid anything we dislike.  It is helpful to remind ourselves during those times that often it is only later, after the difficult period has passed, that we recognize how we gained from the experience.  Perhaps we will see that we put others before ourselves, had courage and/or perseverance and/or patience, were able to problem solve better than we thought we could, and in other ways learned about ourselves because of how we approached the difficulty.

As Kübler-Ross says, we learn from many aspects of life.  An example from my life is what I learned when I helped to care for my elderly mother when she needed to live at an assisted living residence during the last few years of her life.  My mother was fortunate that she had been able to live in her home until she was in her mid-90s.  Although she understood the need to have the assistance of caregivers when her ability to care for herself changed, it was still a difficult transition for her.  It was a priority of mine to spend time with her often, first of all because I loved her and also to give her companionship and to help her feel secure in knowing I would help her in any way I could.

Many adult children of elderly parents do as I did to be present with and assist their parents.  Through this experience, we learn that we are able to be generous with our time instead of thinking only for our needs and wants.  We also grow in empathy sensing the emotions our parents are feeling as the abilities they had when they were younger decrease, and we grow in patience, such as when we walk slowly down the hall with them to be sure they get that exercise.  And when our parents pass away, we have the gift of knowing we helped to make the last years of their earthly journey nicer for them.

The time spent with my mother also gave me practical knowledge about assisted living programs and what to expect if I need to live at one when I’m older.  The experience also has helped to motivate me to do what I can to maintain my health as long as possible by eating nutritiously, exercising, getting sufficient sleep, enjoying time with loved ones, staying active physically and mentally, and in other ways.

I encourage you to approach life in the way expressed by Dr. Kübler-Ross.  In doing so, you will live a more fulfilling and meaningful life, a life of learning every day.